Epiphany
October 8th, 2008 at 12:10pm Cherry Magic Sheryl
I had an epiphany this morning over my yogurt and granola. I’m actually quite smart. People respect my opinion and look to me for guidance. I know that seems like a ridiculous epiphany. I’ve always known those things. The primary difference was the epiphany was prompted by someone who is far better educated than I, with a very successful business, who runs in some swanky circles.
I tend to walk around feeling like my knowledge isn’t up to par. Friends don’t hesitate to tell me I’m wrong or offer suggestions about how I can improve my diet, my health, my relationships, my job etc etc. Admittedly I’ve set that dynamic up by constantly asking for advice in the past, always questioning my own skills or contributions. I figured out some time ago that I have a great deal more value than I give myself credit for but not everyone has caught up to that change in attitude.
It makes me wonder if I’ve missed changes in other people. Have I seen their growth or do I continue to behave as if they are the same old person with insecurities or negative thought patterns?
We all evolve. It’s part of life. I suppose sometimes we slip backwards as well. But how aware are we of the evolution of those around us?
It’s not that the person who respected my opinion yesterday was special or better than my friends. I think in part it was because they don’t know me as the insecure, underconfident being who looked for answers everywhere. Not to implie I’m self-contained and have no need for those friendships, advice or counsel. Friendships are important. History is important. So is listening.
I’m going to actively listen to those around me and see if perhaps I’m not the only one who has changed. I’m thinking Bob is right. Change is extremely difficult. So is recognizing it.
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1. Diane (TT) | October 8th, 2008 at 2:57 pm
This is an excellent topic! I think this is often difficulty between parents and children, too - especially as children grow up and the parents age. The first will grow and mature, while the latter may not recognize it. Or, if they do recognize their offspring’s increased competence, may feel less important and necessary to their children, particularly as they retire and experience physical declines. Being sensitive to not only one’s own changes but those of others and the way they may feel about them is probably crucial to the continued closeness in families.
And long-term friendships may also be vulnerable to unexamined patterns.
Off to run errands downtown!
2. McB | October 8th, 2008 at 4:00 pm
The biggest problem with real change is that you first have to admit a need for it. That’s rare. And that’s why so few people really do change. Mostly they just get better at hiding.
A lot of times we think people have changed, but the reality is that we are seeing them differently. Time and circumstances bring out sides of people that aren’t always apparent. A timid person might be strong when they really have to be. A strong person may be bluffing all along.
3. CMS | October 8th, 2008 at 4:22 pm
Confidence isn’t really cahnge either. It’s just an understanding that one does indeed know what they’re doing. I haven’t really changed at all.
I jsut spent the weekend with people I haven’t seen in 20 years and that started this thought process. Yesterday simply clarified it.
Families and long term friendships allow us interesting perspectives on how we all interact.
4. K.L. | October 8th, 2008 at 6:03 pm
I have mellowed. Not that I am very mellow now, but I am a lot more relaxed about things than I used to be. And that is a good thing. I am also very slowly learning to listen better to other people. Not easy.
Now I really wish it was 5:00 instead of 4:00. sigh
5. orangehands | October 8th, 2008 at 7:38 pm
Very interesting topic, CMS. Though I gotta say when you wrote I’m actually quite smart I was going d’uh, we all know that.
I have a core group of friends in LA. Since I’m up here for a few months, sometimes when I go back I can see some changes (not necesarily good, but changes) in them. Like one friend, who has become very party-drinking oriented to the detriment of her school and finances. And another friend, who I always thought of as “average intelligence”, is a really smart woman whose coming into her own. Stuff like that.
And the real reason I came by the B&G was to do a slight complain: So for the class (3 hr seminar) I had to lead today, I was supposed to be with someone else. That girl fell on the “I don’t get it” and didn’t contribute at all, so I was left holding the bag. I apparently understood a little more than I thought, but still. AND the whole reason I was doing it today instead of next week like I originally planned was because she was all alone this week so when the teacher asked for volunteers to switch I stepped up. UGH.
Anyway, thanks for letting me* complain! No longer bugging me* quite as much.
((HUGS))
6. glamour-geek | October 8th, 2008 at 9:10 pm
OH: this is because *you* are a smart cookie. Of course you can carry it on your own if you have to. And of course you understood more than you thought. We’ve known you a while. We know these things.
I’ve found sometimes that being more distant from people (ie: don’t see them very often because I’ve moved somewhere else) allows us to change more within the scope of the friendship than if we saw each other more often. That is, it’s harder to bear some changes if you’re living through them with someone, but sometimes easier to bear if you see them every 6 months or 2 years or something else, because the essentials stay th same and the surface changes don’t harm the friendship.
That said, some people are better at keeping touch long-distance than others, so those that can’t communicate unless it’s face-to-face, I have lost over time, for better or for worse.
7. GatorPerson | October 8th, 2008 at 9:37 pm
Guess what? We’ve all changed in a same and specific way in the last couple of years.
If anybody had told me I would have a couple dozen new friends from all over the country and Canada and England and Scotland that I talked to everyday I’da told ‘em they were insane. Or that I’d fly across the country to be with. Or that I’d drive 6+ hours to be with. I’m so introverted that I just don’t make that many new friends that quickly. And good friends, too. Not just superficial cocktail party friends.
So how did this happen? Being receptive to change. And accepting a little risk. What? You’re getting on an airplane and flying to Dayton, OH to be with people you’ve never even seen before? You must need your head examined!
8. McB | October 8th, 2008 at 9:38 pm
most of the time we don’t change so much as become more of what already was. But it can seem like change. And CMS we already knew that you are a smart, capable cookie. And that OH is capable of running the universe. After she finishes her homework.
I always figured I could do anything if I really had to. The past year has confirmed that. It has also confirmed to me some things I’m not graY about. BUT more to the point is the perspective other people now have of me. People who didn’t know me as well as they thought. My mom has also surprised a few people by her strength and resiliansy. (sp?)
9. McB | October 8th, 2008 at 9:55 pm
that should read “not crazy about”.
As to change I am more sure of myself than I was when I was younger. Also more cynical. I’m not sure it’s a good trade but neither would I go back to being naieve. And either I’m less nice or there are more idiots out there.
And going back to what CMS said before, I talk about drinking more than I do it. It’s the idea of it that I like. A margarita is a state of mind. But for all that, I’ve never even been drunk. At most a little silly. Because I like the idea of drinking but not of losing control.
10. orangehands | October 9th, 2008 at 12:36 am
MCB: You are absolute fun whether tipsy or sober. I’ve seen you as both, I know
But yeah, saying you need a drink (or to pet a kitten) conveys your state of mind rather than your future actions.
Aw, thanks. No, it’s just one of those annnoying moments. And MCB, there are more idiots in the universe. Or they just like gathering near me* and you and on TV.
GP: Amen. I have definitely changed from meeting all of you. In ever good way.
Yom Kippur has started and I’m already really thirsty.
Oh, and fun (well, sort of) site for both writers and time-wasters: http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/Tropes
You click on a “troop” and s/he gives you a load of examples.
11. RSS | October 9th, 2008 at 7:05 am
Very interesting CMS. Funny how seeing very old friends and acquaintances can highlight the ways we’ve grown. I don’t recognize the person you used to be because I’ve never met her. I only know the very smart, confident, accomplished person you are today.
But I understand what you mean, when the time for my 10th and 20th HS reunions came up, I was eager to go because I wanted to show everyone how much I had changed. It was like I couldn’t really believe it unless someone else noticed.
I agree with Diane that parents and children often have problems accepting change in each other. My folks had a lot of trouble with this. It’s something I’m facing now that I have an adult (19) child and next year will have another. Since my parents had difficulty accepting their children growning up, I try very hard to respect the areas where I can no longer TELL my oldest what he can do and to accept decisions he makes. It helps that I’m very proud of the direction he’s going and admire the person he’s becoming.
And GP I’m with you. If anyone had told me 5 years ago I’d meet such wonderful friends online and would go off to get together with “imaginary” friends, I would have thought they were crazy. But my life would be so much poorer if I had never met you all–and that includes those I’ve not yet met in person.
You’ve set me a challenge CMS. To look for and accept changes in others as I would like them to do with me. And not just the negative changes. Why are they so much easier to see?
12. Marcia in OK | October 9th, 2008 at 10:24 am
CMS - you are one smart cookie.
Sorry, but I can’t think this deep today.
Change is tough. And, most people don’t want to go to the effort, and in fact, some people get satisfaction about complaing about not changing.
Gas in Tulsa has been hovering at $2.90/gal for a week! Why is that seeming like a bad thing?
Hugs to all.
13. McB | October 9th, 2008 at 11:02 am
Thanks, OH. See, I knew it was *them* and not me*!
MNO! Yep. Most people either figure it’s the rest of the world that has the problem or that the rest of the world should accept them warts and all. A refrain they use is “it’s just the way I am.” I’m not sure which attitude is more irritating.
Gas in my neighborhood this a.m. was $3.29.
14. Diane (TT) | October 9th, 2008 at 11:17 am
Yep, I have a friend who is miserable. Hates her job (not enough $, respect or responsibility), and has no life outside it (if she does all of THESE things, she will be able to get another job, with more $, respect and responsibility). Whenever I make suggestions for how she can enjoy her life now, she says “But I can’t do that until I’m done with my stuff!”. And “I can’t be happy as long as I’m not getting” whatever. And she will tell you all about how incompatible her family was, growing up, and how rude and unfriendly everyone is (because they don’t want to have hour-long conversations with her in the hall or on the bus, or TWO hour long conversations on the phone). She is enormously intelligent, but so STUCK!
I’m stuck,too, probably, but I’m not miserable where I’m stuck - because of books and people and other things in my life. I even like some things about my job (although I wish I got more $ and respect, I don’t much want more responsibility, so I’m more-or-less OK with that).
Gas was $3.19 yesterday, I think, here. This will probably prove to be a bad thing, because people will fall back into their driving complacency and not re-arrange their lives to reflect the true cost of fuel - which includes climate change and our national insolvency. Oh, well. We’re going to live in interesting times.
Best wishes for your Yom Kippur, OH!
I’ve really gotta go through some more boxes because having no written calendar is not good. I’ve got Outlook, and a couple of printouts for various projects, but nothing pulling everything together. And I have a feeling it’s going to get busy around here!
15. K.L. | October 9th, 2008 at 11:26 am
It seems to be easier for me to let my kids grow up than it has been for my mom to let me grow up. She still feels the need to offer unwanted advice if she thinks we are doing something we will regret. I do that with my adult daughter too, but the difference is that I only do it once. My mom keeps at it until the offender changes their ways and agrees with her, or gets mad enough to get her to back off.
My belief is that they may need to learn that lesson themselves, and if they aren’t willing to take my advice, I did my job, now they need to decide for themselves what they want to do.
16. orangehands | October 9th, 2008 at 12:03 pm
I haven’t been pass a gas station in a few days, but last time it was $3.69
TT: If you can’t find your actual calendar, you can just print out blank ones online. Course, then you won’t have pretty pictures, but still.
17. Lou | October 9th, 2008 at 12:06 pm
McB - definitely more idiots out there - it’s not you.
18. BCB | October 9th, 2008 at 12:15 pm
Epiphanies, or apostrophes as my DD would say. Good things to have. Validation is good when it comes from someone we respect and admire. It’s even better when it comes from within, no matter what other people think of you. Way too deep for me right now.
Here is my new hero:
http://www.cnn.com/2008/US/10/08/chicago.evictions/index.html
Good for him. About time someone had the guts to do the right thing.
Gas here ranges between $3.75 and $3.85 or so. And I’ve driven past three stations in the past two days that do not have any gas. That’s not good.
Back to work. This week has been so weird and I’m behind.
19. Lou | October 9th, 2008 at 12:28 pm
Yep, I saw about that guy. Gotta love someone who is willing to put himself on the line and do the right thing!!
Gas here in central California is $3.49 a gallon this morning. Amazing considering that it was just about the highest in the US a couple of months ago!!
20. BCB | October 9th, 2008 at 12:53 pm
Oh, and CMS, of COURSE you are. Sheesh.
21. Louis | October 9th, 2008 at 1:11 pm
Sometimes what we see as change in others is change within ourselves.
Gas last time I filled the tank was 3.49 (last Sunday). Southern California Shell station. Gas has been steadily going down the last few weeks.
22. McB | October 9th, 2008 at 1:18 pm
I saw that this morning on the news. Seems to me that it’s only common sense, and decency, to give notice to the actual occupants. Considering how bad things have gotten, mortgage companies need to change the way they do things and start copying such notices directly to the address in question. At the very least the renters would get some notice. The mortgage companies might even benefit by working out an arrangement for the renter to pay them directly. Even if it’s just a short term deal, everyone would benefit.
23. Lou | October 9th, 2008 at 1:27 pm
OK, just got back from a meeting with my boss which went better than I thought it would. So…
Of course you are smart, CMS. We all know that. Even JoAnn Ross knows that. (Exchanged emails with her a couple of months ago - mentioned your name - she thinks you’re terrific!!)
However, may I say that until a person truly believes something (like they are smart) deep down in their core, they will always have doubts! Hence the value of epiphanies, which remove that lingering doubt.
And yes, OH could rule the universe - and we’d probably all be better off for it.
My Mom never stopped being a Mom until the day she passed. Always with the suggestions…
24. Lou | October 9th, 2008 at 1:28 pm
Ack, someone please get me* out of spam. I waiting too long to post and the blog took exception!!
25. Lou | October 9th, 2008 at 2:14 pm
Thank you. I could get myself out, but the Internet Nazis at work won’t let me go there…
26. theresa | October 9th, 2008 at 2:24 pm
Just dropping in to say hi. My sister and nieces arrived yesterday, and OH MY BOB my nieces are already driving me insane!!! Aggghhhhhhh! My older niece can be downright horrid for hours on end when she chooses to. I so wish that was an exageration.
We are off to London on the sleeper train tonight, diverted, unfortunately by bus first to Glasgow.
And just so I’m not all complainy, this was just the ad at the top of my email, which gave me a much needed chuckle:
Birthday Stripper Ecard - www.ecards4me.co.uk - Star as a Female Birthday Stripper in Your Own Free Ecard Movie
27. McB | October 9th, 2008 at 8:42 pm
well sheesh, it follows that everyone here is smart. We only hang out with the better class of imaginary people
28. Mary | October 9th, 2008 at 8:49 pm
Theresa — please tell me you’re not still babysitting those 5 kids as well
I’m hoping Lori packed a warm sweater or two. It was hailing today. Hail stones the size of Tweety Bird’s testicles, but still. It was cold enough to make me shiver. If she wants to do any outdoor grilling, I’ll watch — from the kitchen.
29. McB | October 9th, 2008 at 9:24 pm
dr t: good luck with the family togetherness
Ms merry, be sure to give lurilu hugs when she gets to the mansion
30. BCB | October 9th, 2008 at 9:29 pm
Apparently Mary has been watching the X-rated version of cartoons. Tweety Bird has testicles?
I can tell you from experience that most of Lori’s “grilling” involves comfy chairs and moderate (really) consumption of red wine and lots and lots of laughter. Food is optional. Detached observation is not allowed.
Forgot to say earlier (why yes, I have been distracted) (and busy) (and tired): Mary, hope your baby wolf is recovering nicely from whatever nonsense you thought had to be inflicted [a big poor baby and hugs to both of you]. And LTL, sorry to hear that Life is not cooperating with your desire to communicate. Though I can’t figure out why the hell you should be the only one of us to insist on coherent comments. That’s just wrong. I miss hearing your voice. And CMS, does your mother know you’re talking that way about yourself? SCOPE: Knock some sense into that child of yours, will ya? OH: Hope you survived the fasting and the forgiving. Though you’re too young for any serious atonement.
There’s more, I know there’s more, there’s always more, but I can’t think of what it might be right now. Whatever you all think I should have or would have said, just pretend I did.
31. Mary, the imaginative ornithologist | October 9th, 2008 at 9:43 pm
That was artistic. Metaphor, or metonymy, or mythology. Something like that. I mean, didn’t you get a sense of something veddy veddy small?
32. Mary, the non-wolf owner | October 9th, 2008 at 9:45 pm
p.s. Yes, Tanji is doing much better. She’s not whining or whimpering or giving me sad, confused looks any more. I think she’s starting to enjoy all the coddling.
33. glamour-geek | October 9th, 2008 at 9:52 pm
My half-sister and her DH did really well by a non-paying home owner many years ago. The owner stopped paying the mortgage, but the notices went to the house, so my HS and her DH knew it. They went to the bank and offered to buy the house For The Cost Of The Remaining Mortgage.
Since most of the house was paid off, all the bank cared about was getting their money paid back, not who by. So they got the house for a song. Don’t know what happened to the owner, but she basically just stopped sending checks in, even after she was notified that, um, she needed to keep paying her mortgage, as she had been doing for 10 years or so…I think she basically decided she didn’t want to anymore.
Since most of the people being foreclosed on have mortgages worth more than the houses are now worth, that’s not going to work for most renters, but wouldn’t it be nice if they could get those bargains?
Heroes: I read the obituary for Paul Newman in the Economist at dinner tonight. I was impressed by this:
“In the end, the only self-reinvention that completely pleased him was the grinning man on the label of “Newman’s Own” balsamic dressing. His sauces and snacks, sold for charity from 1982 onwards (”shameless exploitation in pursuit of the common good”), turned him into the most generous individual, relative to his income, in the 20th-century history of the United States.”
His favorite was a camp charity for children with life-threatening illnesses, so they could go raise a little hell for a while since they were out of the hospital.
34. Mary the procrastinator | October 9th, 2008 at 10:04 pm
GG? Is that the house that was pink on pink, with pink accents?
35. glamour-geek | October 9th, 2008 at 10:49 pm
No, that was the old house. The one that was pink on pink with pink accents was CHOSEN by them. On purpose and everything.
Strange but true.
36. Wapakwoman | October 9th, 2008 at 10:59 pm
*she skips happily into the Bar and Grill..”Just grabbiing a bottle of water on the way by. TOMORROW (2 minutes from now it will BE tomorrow) I get to see MAX! ”
Waves madly and puts the guacamole in the frig for you all
37. CMS | October 10th, 2008 at 7:24 am
It’s okay, BCB I’m not talking smack about myself. I was actually saying that I now know that I’m smart. And funny and kind and generous and pretty and brilliant and loyal and compassionate
Sorry it took so long to actually know instead of trying to convince myself those things were true, but the important point is I do.
Yay Wapak
Yay Tanjii
Happy Canadian Thanksgiving weekend(this means I tell you how incredibly grateful I am to have you all in my life - have some turkey)
38. McB | October 10th, 2008 at 8:08 am
Happy Thanksgiving to the Canadian CBs.
I’m so glad to hear that the furry friends are all doing well. Yay indeed
Wakap, I was going to tell you to give MAX hugs and kisses for the rest of us, but then I realized it was like telling you to please breathe. So I’ll just tell you to enjoy.
CMS - falls under things I didn’t need to know about Tweety.
39. GatorPerson | October 10th, 2008 at 8:42 am
I remember my epiphany. I’d been told and told and had the test scores, but I really didn’t believe it. I had to take a timed test for graduate school admission. I did so, read my answers over twice, still had time left, but so what. The secretary scored it and said I must take the results IMMEDIATELY to the chem dept director. The highest scores she had ever seen. It took this disinterested person and the hard results for it to sink in. Of course, maybe all the other test takers were dumber than dirt.
The only question I remember was what animal/mineral/plant herpetology was for. As if I could every forget THAT one.
Can Tweety fly dragging that weight? For that matter, how can he stand? Bowlegged? And what is metonymy?
40. GatorPerson | October 10th, 2008 at 9:05 am
We interrupt these discussions to say that Laurie R. King has won the 1st Jack Reacher award. Here’s the address for those who are interested:
http://laurierking.com/wp.php/
41. McB | October 10th, 2008 at 10:01 am
Go, LRK! Her books are so rich and detailed she really deserves the recognition. GP - didn’t you say she’ll have a new Mary Russel book out next year?
42. Mary the procrastinator | October 10th, 2008 at 1:11 pm
She wanders through the empty bar & grill. Funny to see it so empty. Looks like people had been in: the fireplace still held the glowing embers of a fire, there were margarita glasses on some of the tables, and a pair of reading glasses on the table in the corner. The silence seems to hold the ghosts of past laughter; it is lonely.
Then, from the trap door leading down to the basement, she hears the faintest sound. Could it be a giggle?
43. McB | October 10th, 2008 at 1:56 pm
could be
44. Lou | October 10th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
***{g}***
45. Lou | October 10th, 2008 at 1:58 pm
Mary - so glad to hear that Tanji is feeling better. (((HUGS))) from Bowie and Tinker.
Isn’t Lori supposed to be at your house?? How is she?
46. me | October 10th, 2008 at 2:05 pm
Oh no; Mary found the trap door leading to my dungeon for those who defy proofreaders and basic grammar rules in the name of “creativity.” Please ignore my maniacal giggles. And the blood-tipped pens, the ends of which are slightly flattened from blunt force. Ignore those too.
47. Mary | October 10th, 2008 at 2:09 pm
I’m thinking Lori and Cary are dancing on the tabletops somewhere in Portland. Haven’t heard anything about rioting downtown, so maybe she’s still in transit.
I, alas, am sniff working
48. GatorPerson | October 10th, 2008 at 3:16 pm
Mirabile dictu!
Here’s the address for Mary Russell’s very own weblog:
http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=149069146&blogID=434369425&Mytoken=A5EA85EE-AD03-4A3D-A8BF640CB62267B510163080
According to Mary, her literary agent, Laurie King, has finished the first stage of editing Mary’s 9th memoir, and now it’s toing and froing with the powers that be before the next stages of King’s editing. My personal guess is that it will be out mid 2009.
49. Marcia in OK | October 10th, 2008 at 4:04 pm
Have a good weekend y’all (or ya’ll) !
50. McB | October 10th, 2008 at 7:25 pm
you too MNO.
51. McB | October 11th, 2008 at 7:35 am
comes in to get the coffee started and pops a tray of cinnamon rolls into the oven
52. Louis | October 11th, 2008 at 11:19 am
Coffee and a hot cinnamon roll, please
Thanks.
53. Diane (TT) | October 11th, 2008 at 12:14 pm
The cinnamon rolls are most welcome- I missed most of my snacks / treats that I usually get at the Farmer’s Market. I said to myself “I don’t have time to read this Sherry Thomas book” - but ended up doing it anyway! Private Arrangements - REALLY good.
It is not how I was supposed to spend my morning, but it sure was fun.
I also realized that I really HAD to send my nephew’s b-day gift today, because, not only is remembering to do so on Monday unlikely (and I’d've lost the weekend days’ travel time), but Monday is a holiday, so, to arrive Thursday, I needed to send it today. Then I got to the Post Office and discovered I had not brought my wallet. Rats.
They were taking down the tents at the market as I was leaving, but I got a couple of peppers, some garlic, the LAST BOX of tomatoes, a few cookies and some pears. But no meat, so I’ll have to see what’s in the freezer.
There was an “attempted abduction” this morning downtown - I trust it was just a prank, but the young woman was apparently frightened enough to call the police! Or perhaps an onlooker called, when the two young men tried to force her into a van. I hope it was just poor fraternity judgment, or an ill-thought-out birthday thing or something, but still….
It’s gorgeous here and “unseasonably warm” - highs in the low 80s! Tomorrow and Monday, too.
Pretty rambly. Sorry. Maybe I should have a cup of that coffee, too.
54. orangehands | October 11th, 2008 at 3:22 pm
Good for that sheriff. And good for Paul Newman.
Happy Canadian Thanksgiving, though a day late. Well, you’re probably be eating turkey for awhile.
and yay Tanji
((Dr.T))
((BCB))
GP: animal/mineral/plant herpetology? and wow, go you.
I did not want to know that about Tweety. OH MY BOB TWEETY IS MASTURBATING IN MY HEAD, GET THE IMAGE OUT GET IT OUT GET IT OUT!
55. Diane (TT) | October 11th, 2008 at 4:00 pm
OH - you’re not late, you’re early. Canadian Thanksgiving is on Monday (2nd Monday in October).
But thanks for the reminder - Happy Canadian Thanksgiving! A nice time for a holiday. Unfortunately, I don’t get it. It wouldn’t be long enough for me to travel to see family anyway, which I hope to do for US Thanksgiving (I can leave after work on TUESDAY! I may stop in NY, as it’s a REALLY LONG drive to MA).
I have done only marginally more work today than if I had stayed home and read, cleaned or baked. But, while I know I have a lot to do, how exactly to address it is not clear, so I’m dithering.
Oh, well - Saturday dithering is less frustrating than Monday or Tuesday dithering….
56. McB | October 11th, 2008 at 9:22 pm
miss Lucy had a steamboat …
57. Scope Dope CherryBomb | October 11th, 2008 at 9:50 pm
Thank you for the Thanksgiving wishes. It is really beautiful here with the trees starting to change colour and such a nice day. I am very thankful for all my CB friends. You fill me with warmth just thinking of each of you. I am reminded of the line from a song in “Goodbye Mr. Chips” It goes, “In the autumn of my life I will look to the sunset and the question I shall ask when my life is through is Did I fill the world with love, did I fill the world with love, did I fill the world with love my whole life through?” You all fill my world with love. You, my family, poor Tara and happy little Casey.
Did I say little? He is already as tall as Tara. He keeps me really busy with his medicines and cleansing his paw three times a day, soaking it and bandaging him so that he can go outside. He bounces around here like a kangaroo. Nobody told him he had a bad foot. When he is splinted he throws the leg out and hops on it like a fully functional one.
Poor Tanji. I hope all is well now. Does she still have her staples? They sure know how to make you feel badly don’t they Merry? Tara jumps up into my lap and throws her head on my shoulder. It is so sad when she is having a bad night. Casey then tries to get into my lap at the same time. It is for these reasons I have not been available for much of the time.
Bcb-you had those handsome hunks available and you didn’t call us to come over? Wow. Glad you got out okay.
OH-still have your back lady. Get that homework done. Know how it is when your seminar partner does not fulfill her part. Been there.
Theresa-hope your DNs settle down and let you enjoy their company.
RSS-so sorry we missed the weekend. We had planned to come but ended up at the wedding instead. Interesting.
Wapak-have a wonderful Max filled week.
Have I forgotten anything? I hope not. Love to all.
58. Gamma in love | October 11th, 2008 at 10:22 pm
I got to see a Panda today at the zoo. I’d never seen one up close before. I needed Lori or CMS to take Marvleous pictures for me.
I did get a “few” pictures of the smiling MAX!, glowing DDIL who is REALLY pregnant. All is ready for SISTER- I even got to feel her kick! I told her I loved her and that she had a great big brother
I so needed someone to give sloppy kisses and someone to chase and giggle with. I don’t have a dog so MAX! has to do for the next 2 days.
I think I need to buy a condo here. Andi, you could come and use it when the guys get too much. I think MAX! will need me.
He recognized us when we came in and that pretty much made my life until the babies come.
Sorry to ramble on. The child just gets into my heart and fills up all those empty unhappy places.
((HUGS) May your Sunday be full of things that fill your empty spaces.
59. cbpen | October 12th, 2008 at 12:11 am
Wapak: I want to see a panda. When my daughter was on tour with her acting troupe, I told her to go and see the DC pandas and take pics for me*. The whole bunch went. :>
Isn’t it great when the little ones recognize you? Wait til he comes running, calling for you…even if he just saw you the day before. 
A! and E! do that.
Then when she moved to CA, I told her she had to go to San Diego to see the panda there.
Happy Canadian Thanksgiving.
We are also having a heat wave. They say we may break the 83 degree record Sunday.
60. CMS | October 12th, 2008 at 10:52 am
I’m going to splint Casey’s leg, grab my ms and go sit outside for a few hours. It’s gorgeous outside. My back hurts so much and the dogs need to play. So a lounger by the pond while the two male dogs chase each other into exhaustion should take care of everyone. Plus they make me laugh and that sound is good for me(probably her too)
YAY MAX!! his laughter and Gamma Love fills my heart too. That’s the greatest thing about love. It spreads - like a delightful virus
61. McB | October 12th, 2008 at 12:14 pm
Wapak! Pandas are so much fun. A few years ago I saw the mama and baby at the National Zoo. He was so frisky and playful, and she was such a mom … I could just hear her thinking, as he climbed on and over her, “maybe this will tire him out and he’ll go to sleep early tonight.” Beng around kids really does make the heart sing, though.
It’s fabulous here as well. We were up and out of the house early so mom could get her flu shot at the clinic … drive up flu shots, can you beat that? She didn’t even have to get out of the car. I get mine at work later this week. And now my grass is cut in the back yard, possibly for the last time this year. I also pulled out the tomato and squash plants. They are so done for. The kid down the street, the one who will do anything for a buck, trimmed the shrubs in front of the house for me. Not out of the kindness of his heart, and probably I paid too much, but he did do a really good job. He’s quite the entreprenuer and told me he was saving to get a new weed whacker. I like to encourage kids to think that way.
Okay, I guess I should go put up the new post now. I’m pretty sure it’s not as scintillating and brilliant as I thought it was when I wrote it, but be kind.
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